How to Get a Girlfriend
There are countless videos on YouTube about dating Japanese women, but most are misleading at best. These videos will fill you with false-hope, and set you up for failure. We’re not an authority on dating Japanese women, but our opinions and advice can offer you a different perspective. Let’s begin. There appears to be 2 major categories of Japanese women, “country girls” and “city girls.”
COUNTRY GIRLS want to get married young (before 22 years old) and have a family as soon as possible. They are looking for guys, under 27 years old, that also want to start a family. They want a man with a good job, and a U>S. military pension is a bonus.
CITY GIRLS have no time for a real boyfriend (hookups only) and will never get married. If you meet a Japanese woman, working two jobs, going to college, and dressed in perfect Japanese style… she’s a “city girl.” If she has time to go on a date with you (IMPORTANT) you will only get this one date. There will be no second date, because she is too busy for a second date. Our advice, be bold on that first date, and be ready to take her home, or to a love-hotel that night. It will be your only chance.
TIPS on dating in Japan:
If you want hookups: Speak Japanese, dress well, have great hair, and don’t look poor. Get a job at a popular IZAKAYA, and hookup with the customers. You might have better luck with women over 30.
If you wan a wife: Being young (under 25) is the most important qualification. You don’t need to know Japanese, but it helps! Don’t look homeless, don’t be fat, don’t be lazy, and especially don’t be poor. You will have better luck with the younger “country girls.”
If you want a girlfriend: You should focus on dating non-Japanese women (Thai, Vietnamese, Filipina, etc) in Japan. They are usually kind and feminine, and most Japanese guys aren’t interested in dating them. Most of these girls speak some English, and want a good boyfriend.
Dating apps: Can be a waste of time, because most Japanese girls don’t use them. Also, if you look closely, most of the profiles are abandoned, or scammers.
Older guys looking for young women: If you’re over 40, and looking for international romance, Japan is not the country for you. You will never see young Japanese women dating a much older men. Sorry, brother.
Who’s buying dinner?: The man should pay for the date 80% of the time. Fortunately, Japan is an affordable country, and a lunch date should only run you $20. The masculine / feminine gender rolls are still appreciated in Japan, so be a man, and pay for the date. However! This is not the case when “dating” older Japanese women. If you have game, are a high-value man, and speak Japanese, these women will treat you like a king. They might buy presents, dinner, or take you on vacations. It’s true…
Bottom line: The numbers don’t lie. Japan’s population drops every year, therefore Japanese people are not having a lot of sex. Look at the biggest YouTubers in Japan. These guys are famous, rich, and speak Japanese, but most of them aren’t dating Japanese women. It’s not easy, bro. However, this should not stop you from getting a student visa and living in Japan for a year or two. It experience will change your life, and they’ll be surprises you can’t imagine. Get over here!
How to Get a Boyfriend
We interviewed 100 foreigners (women) living in Japan, and none of them were able to get a Japanese boyfriend. Here is their advice:
Be patient
Be chill
Be indirect